How to make holistic, quality decisions

In my last post I explored the ideas of personal risk intelligence and unlinking the quality of our risk taking from potential outcomes and instead linking it to the quality of the decision making behind a risk. Many of the decisions we make happen automatically. Our brain is designed to relieve us of the burden of [...]

On Learning to Crash Well: Personal Risk Intelligence

Ok, so...I'm clumsy. Hello, my name is Jenny and I'm accident prone. Perhaps that's why I would come up with an idea like 'learn to crash well' as a guiding principle. Plus, I tend to tilt a little more to the risk averse side of the scale (at least according to my definition of risk).  Thus, [...]

Free Interactive Emotional Intelligence Resource Guide

Over the last several weeks we've focused on understanding, developing, and applying emotional intelligence. Check out the resources I cited in the posts (as well as many I didn't mention) in my Interactive Guide to Emotional Intelligence Resources. In this guide, you'll find books, TedTalks, and movies that I've discovered, read, watched, and used on [...]

4 Steps to Immediately Apply Emotional Intelligence to your Thinking

"It's a mess when strange events smack into the windscreen of a resolutely rational mind." Robin Sloan I recently finished reading Sourdough by Robin Sloan (a delightfully charming modern allegorical tale) and was struck by the quote above. The rigidity with which I used to approach life, love, emotions, and...well...just about everything failed to prepare [...]

A bird on a branch never worries that the branch will break: A lesson on emotional self-trust

"A bird on a branch never worries that the branch will break because her trust is not on the branch but on her wings." ~ Unknown This quote alongside my reading of The Speed of Trust by Stephen M.R. Covey inspired this week's theme. Self-trust is a deep topic that touches on multiple factors of [...]

The Subtle Art of Interrupting Yourself: The Broken Windows Theory of Mental Discipline

When I think of mental discipline as it relates to emotional intelligence , I specifically focus on two simple yet significant tactics deployed when you sense you're about to venture down a dangerous path : Recognizing an unproductive emotion or line of thinking when they arise. Immediately interrupting that unproductive emotion or line of thinking upon recognition. Because [...]

What’s right with this picture?

Learning to ask and see what is right within what is (or appears to be) wrong is an intentional choice to shift one's perspective from negativity to positivity, which yields improved benefits to emotional intelligence, creativity, resourcefulness, problem solving, and resilience (just to name a few).  This skill is often called "reframing". First off,  understand that [...]

The one soft skill to rule them all

Emotional intelligence is by far the most beneficial soft-skill I've ever learned, practiced, coached, and witnessed. The rewards (some subtle, some profound) I've experienced are personal, interpersonal, professional, and social: improved mental health, confidence, work performance, decision making, resilience, stress management, listening, understanding, and relationships. I grew up in an action-oriented environment that didn't often focus on my [...]

Stop and Count to 10: The Power of the Pause

Turns out our moms were right…again. Remember when you used to throw infantile tantrums or explode in emotional outbursts when you didn’t get your way? Remember when your mom would tell you to calm down and count to 10? Well, there’s a whole heck of a lot of science behind why this simple activity works [...]

How do you like your eggs? 5 reasons to know yourself

Vulnerability is the key to connection and growth, so here comes a random confession: The first self-determined, intentional decision I remember making free of anyone else’s influence was at the spry age of 35 when I decided to go back to grad school and to shift careers from technical writing to coaching, leadership, and organization [...]